We might wonder what signs we overlooked and what we could have done back then. Let’s talk about it in detail with an example of a couple.
For instance, a woman ignored a nagging feeling that something wasn’t quite right when she discovered a lipstick mark on her husband’s shirt and a female ring in her husband’s bag. She felt guilty for thinking anything could be wrong when he returned home and dismissed her missed calls and texts as her “mood swings.”
Despite this, she ignored her instincts that heartbreak was approaching. What we don’t realise is that we have the ability to ignore warning signs which at times ruin our life.
She decided to remain quiet, holding out hope that the ring was a surprise. But when it was already weeks, she finally brought this topic up, where he commented that she was wasting his time talking about the past event! And she didn’t talk a word about it.
After a few days, she discovered some pictures and even her friends spotted her husband with a girl. And when her friends asked her why she wasn’t shocked, she said she was aware of what was going on.
So, why do we overlook the warning signs in our relationships? I believe there are several possible answers, each complicated by the emotions we carry for that person. In this article, I will tell you why this happens and why it is mostly women who face heartbreaks.
Reasons Why You Might be Overlooking Obvious Red Flags in Mature Dating
Have you ever had a partner who forgets your birthday? Yes, it feels bad, but is it a red flag? I don’t think so. A partner who consistently forgets important dates is likely revealing something about their personality and what they feel is important. When a certain situation arises, it is better to pay attention to your gut feeling than labelling it as a red flag.
Some reasons for overlooking the obvious red signs are as follows:
The first and foremost reason is that many of us ignore warning signs out of fear that our partner is telling the truth. We may inquire about our partner’s behaviour, but we don’t question the answers, even if they don’t quite fit. Even if we know what i’s going on, we don’t want our partner to admit to having an affair.
Second, we overlook warning signs because we’ve been taught that marriage is difficult to maintain and overlooking is the only way to keep the marriage going, am I right? I agree that marriage and relationships are difficult, but they should not be so difficult that you feel disrespected and have to sacrifice with what is yours.
We engage in denial and carry on as if nothing is wrong when we ignore red flags because we believe our intuition is incorrect. We dismiss our gut instincts, disconnection signs, inappropriate conversations, and hazy details. We conclude that we must be insane after hearing our partner’s explanation and that their explanation is completely accurate.
What are some red flags in a relationship?
The red flags in a relationship are as follows:
He is rude to people
When it comes to potential suitors, one of the first things you should look out for is a man who is rude to people in the service industry or the people who have their own small business. How your date interacts with the waiter or Uber driver reveals a lot about their attitudes toward social structure and sense of entitlement.
Anger is always on their head
If your partner’s anger management issues turn into abuse, it’s a good idea to end the relationship immediately. The way they express their anger makes you feel unsafe. They might punch a wall or break household items, leading to future abusive behavior.
Taking your relationship forward too quickly.
If it feels right, a fast-paced relationship can be fine. If you’re worried about your partner speeding up, it’s probably time to hit the brakes. When one person attempts to manipulate the other into a dependency situation, love bombing can become concerning.
They blame their exes for everything wrong in their life
If your new partner constantly rails against any of their “unlucky” ex-lovers, it indicates that they’re the problem. Treating them with extreme caution or better breaking up with them is a better idea if you care about your mental peace because the chances are good that they won’t have that kind of insight with you now.
The bottom line
There are many more signs but the ones mentioned here are the obvious red flags. Ask yourself what you’re ignoring and denying to get a better picture of your relationship problems. Are you willing to look for the red flags?
Remember, your mental peace and self-respect come before every relationship.