In the movies, dating your best friend or forming a relationship out of a friend with benefits arrangement always works out, but it’s a different thing altogether in real life. It appears to be the best idea ever in theory, but many tragedies appear to be the best ideas ever in theory.
So, before you walk down that path, consider these factors, all of which lead to the fact that dating your best friend can be a good as well as a bad choice.
Why should I think before dating my best friend?
There is no clear answer to this question. Everyone has their own opinion about it. We tend to make exceptions for our best friends and let them get away with things and miss the red flags. You’re normally more cautious when you don’t know someone well. While in the case of our best friend, we don’t put much effort.
Dating your closest friend, according to relationship experts, is a huge risk. You never see someone the same way after witnessing them in an intimate situation like sex. As a result, friends with benefits rarely revert to just being friends.
You can’t turn back once you’ve slept with your best buddy. It’s critical to take a step back and evaluate the situation objectively, regardless of what your body chemistry is telling you.
Keeping the intimate thing aside, it’s a bad idea to date someone you don’t want to date because you’re trying to get over someone else. You’re treating your friend as if he or she were a thing, an object to be used for your own purposes. It demonstrates a severe lack of understanding and sympathy for your friend.
But wait a minute, have you thought about who are you supposed to turn to for consolation when you’re dating your best friend? It will be really uncomfortable to confide in your new partner. In times of hardship, your best friend might be a source of comfort and solace, but if things don’t work out, you’ve lost that resource!
Hence, it is wayyyyyyyyyyy more important to think twice than going with the flow without being sure about your and their feelings.
What should I do if my best friend asked me to be his/her date?
My answer is the same, if you want it, go for it. Don’t do something that will affect your soul.
Sometimes… SOMETIMES, we do things that are supposed to be in between our partner and us, for instance, our nastiness in bed. While there are some things we don’t want to be known by our partner which usually only your best friend know. In the case of dating your best friend, this can make things a bit (or very much) odd.
By this I mean, your best friend know you just too much which take away the essence of efforts. Many people think it is good but honestly, this is the only problem with dating your best friend.
Is it a good idea to date my best friend?
Yes, it is. But only if you both are sure about it. Asking your friend is better than taking things straight. Talk about it before you two get into something like a relationship.
When you first start dating your best friend, it’s natural to expect that your friendship compatibility will simply translate into partner compatibility.
However, this isn’t always the case because you’re not putting each other through the dating rack.
Why do I feel like I should date my best friend when I’ve dated once and ended breaking up?
You may have started a new trend of best friends becoming partners. Feel like you must date your best friend because you both are close enough and enjoy each others company, this may be a one-time feeling— or the beginning of a habit.
If you have earlier dated your other best friend then this feeling might be a mere want or infatuation which in my terms be called a habit.
Note: you must determine how you will approach the possibility of developing this habit.
Frequently asked questions
Am I in love with my best friend?
It is possible to care deeply about someone with whom you have no desire to have a proper relationship. And sometimes we take this thing as LOVE.
If you think you really have feelings that go beyond regular friendship, it may be worthwhile to let out some of your feelings. Your best friend has likely shared many experiences with you, and you may sense a bond with them that you don’t share with others in your life.
It is ultimately up to you and your situation whether or not you express your feelings with your best friend. You may feel more motivated to keep your sentiments to yourself if your friend is already in a relationship, if not then just ASK- directly or indirectly.
The importance of being truthful and transparent in conveying your opinions cannot be overstated. You can put a lot of pressure on your best friend by telling them you like them. Instead, approaching the subject with interest can be significantly more productive.
Discover whether they’re seeking the same or if they’d rather be single (as if already explained above). Do not be anxious about your relationship changing because it is natural; your friendship will be affected, if not 100% then at least 10%.
Lastly, there’s no way to know for sure whether your best buddy likes you or loves you more than a friend. Discussing “am I in love with my closest friend?” is the best and most certain method to find out.
Should I tell my bestie I love her?
Look, there is are 1/1 chance of being on the positive side or the negative after telling your best friend how you feel.
You can be concerned about how the other person is feeling if you’re falling hard and fast. Knowing how they feel about you dating other people can help you figure out what their real issues are. Because you know the individual better, falling in love with a friend may be easier to detect.
If you don’t express it, as time passes, you may experience hidden feelings of hurt, envy, or other emotions when your one-sided love is being cosy with someone else.
Tip: If you opt to express your emotions, start the conversation with a question rather than a statement.
The bottom line
Friendship is an important element of dating, but you should consider whether you’re willing to deal with the consequences if you pursue a relationship with your best friend.
But yeah, don’t let the thought of losing your friendship stop you from pursuing the relationship if you truly desire it. Just speak out your heart and let happen whatever happens next.