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How to write a dating profile that will actually get you dates

The majority of the ‘what to write on your profile’ advice I’ve seen is, at best, outdated. Here are some pointers on how to write a succinct bio that will help you find the right mate. Since most of such blogs spend a lot of time telling you what to do without showing you how to, I’ve written just the right thing you want.

There is no such thing as a PEEEERRRRFECT online dating profile. Okay sorry, I exaggerated a lot. *wink*. There is, however, an optimal dating profile FOR YOU. You shouldn’t try to outdo other daters or pass yourself off as someone you aren’t. The whole point is to find the ideal partner for you. As a result of incomplete or empty profiles, many matches have been lost.

In this blog, I will tell you how you can write a dating profile that will actually get you dates. Continue reading.

How to write a dating profile that will actually get you dates?

A superb online dating profile emphasizes who you are and what makes you unique. You are not obligated to use different details on multiple dating apps. 

It is not necessary for you to share every element of your life or a detailed description of your requirements. 

The idea is to spark someone’s curiosity to the point that they will message you or flirt with you. So, the pointers on how to write a dating profile that will actually get you dates are as follows:

  1. Describe yourself well

The bio section should have enough information to identify you, but it should be kept brief. You don’t need to disclose all of your degrees and jobs because your profile isn’t a résumé. Include your personal interests, such as whether you prefer to walk on the beach or hike in the mountains. 

  1. Make a list of all the things that makes you unique. 

It’s okay to be different. When unusual isn’t scary, people like it. Your mother, best friends, and/or that employee who doesn’t like you can all be helpful in this situation. This is also useful to carry on your phone as a list in case you ever find yourself in one of those awkward icebreaker roundtables when you have to say something fascinating about yourself.

  1. Consider the concept of storytelling in shorthand. 

This sounds a lot more difficult than it is. We all know who that woman is and how her narrative ends, so that character is a no-brainer to market. This is a strategy that can be used for good rather than harm. This makes it important to know what are the one or two aspects about yourself that you want your partner to know? You can’t, and shouldn’t, tell a stranger everything about your personality and life story in such a short amount of time. 

  1. If at all possible, be amusing. 

This is the most difficult aspect. I’m not particularly hilarious in person (some would argue not at all), but if you can make someone grin, they’ll think you’re awesome and it’ll stick with them. Just don’t plagiarise a line off the internet; that’s unethical.

  1. Be as succinct and to the point as possible. 

In a single day, your potential match is likely to read dozens of profiles. The length of time you must retain it depends on the platform. If you’re using Tinder, you only have only 2 to three lines to work with. You have a little more leeway if it’s more Hinge-style, where they give you writing prompts, but keep it to less than a paragraph overall.

  1. Be out of the ordinary. 

You need to be a little poetic or persuasive. Even if you are not that creative, it’s much easier to like the person who says “I’m obsessed with watching horror web series in bed while eating fresh chocolate chip cookies out of the package like a chocolate bar,” than it is to like the person who says “I like Netflix, reading, and sleeping.”

  1. Include a conversational start.

This really works. It is like a sales strategy or a call to action that indirectly urge the viewer to text you. Even if you’re looking for something serious, it’s still a good idea to include some adjectives so folks can see if you have anything in common. 

The bottom line

You can put a disclaimer without actually expressing it, such as “Don’t message me if you just want to hook up.” Sign up for a site that allows you to explain who you are and what you want in more detail. Showing that you desire to do particular things together not only helps to notify someone that they might be the appropriate person for you, but it also sends out signals that repel individuals who aren’t.

Experts suggest that while professional shots aren’t required, images should be appealing and stances should be natural and comfortable. By leading someone to inquire where an image was shot, photos are also more likely to elicit comments and initiate dialogues.

Now as you know how to write a better dating profile, what are you waiting for? Get going and SLAYYY! 

About the Author

Sasha Aun
Sasha Aun
Hi, I am Sasha, a professional relationship expert, and a blogger. At Datinghelpguide, I write tips to create an attractive dating profile and guides on managing dating profiles on multiple apps.