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15 Valuable Pieces of Unusual Dating Advice for Men

When was the last time you made your date walk out in anger to never return? Okay okay, it wasn’t your mistake. I’m not defending her… but are you sure it was not your fault at all?

Still, considering your lucky you somehow got in a relationship, and it is not like the k-dramas then? Well, it’s very difficult to have a flawless relationship, nearly impossible. 

Whatever the nature of the relationship, it is always a two-way street. Between the two of you, there will always be occasional disagreements and arguments. Working through these challenges in a healthy manner, on the other hand, is what makes a relationship successful.

In this blog, I will give you 15 pieces of dating advice that will mark your relationship as the best in your circle. Continue reading.

15 Valuable Pieces of Unusual Dating Advice for Men

Don’t make it easy for her.

If you make it easy for her, then she’ll be able to take you for granted. If she doesn’t have to work hard to get attention and validation from you, then it won’t be valuable to her and she won’t be very interested in the relationship.

When a guy is too eager to please her by agreeing with everything she says, not putting up any boundaries, and basically becoming her lap dog, he ends up losing touch with his masculine side of himself. She wants him to be a man who stands up for himself and has confidence in who he is as a man.

Consider her feelings

The majority of men have a tendency to dismiss the feelings of their better halves. Rather than constantly accuse your girlfriend of being too emotional or sensitive, always do your best to consider her feelings and attempt to figure out what’s wrong. Don’t dismiss her feelings because it will make her feel that she’s the one who’s insane or that her emotions are pointless.

Listen to what she has to share with you

You can’t only be your girlfriend’s lover if you want to have a great relationship. She must understand that you are also her best friend and partner in all aspects of her life. Making an effort to be a good listener is one of the most crucial pieces of relationship advice for guys.

Don’t be hesitant to give her your opinion when she asks for it, but don’t force your decisions on her. Simply show her why you’re there for her, that she can come to you with any problems she’s having, and that you’ll never be too overwhelmed or tired to listen to her.

Little things matter more

When a lady loves you, she won’t constantly ask for expensive gifts or romantic surprises from you. She’ll want to see that you’ve been paying attention to her the entire time you’ve been dating. One of the most important pieces of dating advice for men is to pay attention to the small things, which you almost never do.

Let her know that she’ll have to impress you.

While it’s natural to feel that you should be looking for someone who is going to fix all of your problems and change your life for the better, it’s ideal if you go into a date with an open mind.

You don’t want to be on a date with a woman and realize that she wants something completely different out of life than you do. This won’t be beneficial for either of you in the long run.

Dating should be fun, but it shouldn’t have to feel like playing games either. If there is something that doesn’t sit right with you or if your partner isn’t treating you how they should, let them know, and don’t be afraid to speak up. But also, don’t be an aggressive jerk about it either.

The point is this: In order for any relationship—whether romantic or platonic—to work, both partners need to make sure their needs are met and respected. You shouldn’t have to change who you are for someone else, nor should they expect that from you.

Be interested in the conversation, but not too interested.

I’ve had many conversations that I wish I could have ended sooner than I did. Unfortunately, sometimes the girl that you were speaking with wasn’t as receptive to your attempts at conversation as you thought she’d be. Going into a conversation thinking there’s no way you can mess it up can lead to speaking for hours on end about yourself, only to find out the other person isn’t very interested in learning more about you.

If this happens, don’t feel bad if you need to end the conversation early. There’s no reason why you should continue talking with someone who isn’t interested in talking with you. You may be tempted to stay because of how long it took for you and her to start getting along in the first place, but all that time and effort is wasted if she ends up never wanting to talk with you again because of how boring or self-absorbed she finds your personality to be.

On the other hand, asking too many questions without allowing her room for her own input is an easy way to make her feel like your sole focus is finding out more about what makes her tick rather than actually getting along with one another on a deeper level. It might seem like a difficult balance to strike if this is part of your normal dating routine already (and especially if it’s something that has worked for you in the past), but there are lots of ways around it—including simply changing the subject when appropriate or asking follow-up questions about things she mentioned before so that she gets even more opportunities for expressing herself fully.

Be honest about what your expectations are and what you can give in return.

Being honest about what you want and what you can give in return is a great idea and will draw women to you. A lot of women like the challenge of getting someone to open up—the mystery of it all—so if you open up right away, sure, there will be a sense of victory for her since she got you to spill your guts. Women also like to feel as though they’re contributing something important to the relationship. However, in the long run, by being upfront and honest at the beginning of your relationship, you’ll save yourself a lot of headaches later on as misunderstandings can be avoided.

Expressing your needs clearly will keep your expectations realistic. Letting them know how much time or energy you have available for them will help manage their expectations. It’s going to be tempting for some people who are very busy with work or responsibilities at home to try and hide this from their dates because they don’t want them to think they won’t get enough attention from them. This is not only dishonest but also unfair; it usually leads to one person feeling resentful toward the other since they were not told about this before things went too far into the relationship. If you let your date know what is really going on in your life before things get serious, that way if he or she doesn’t accept it then there are no hard feelings.

Always be willing to walk out of a bad date.

You should always be willing to walk out of a bad date. This is not harsh dating advice. It’s a life lesson that can be applied to almost any situation. If you’re in a restaurant and the food sucks, you leave and go somewhere else. If you’re at an event and it’s boring, you leave and find something better to do. If you get on an airplane and the pilot tells everyone to brace for impact because the plane is going down, but then it lands safely in Chicago instead of Santo Domingo, then sure—stay put on that flight because your final destination is Chicago anyway and maybe don’t listen to that pilot anymore.

Right? You don’t have to stay anywhere or with anyone who isn’t making your life better. So if she starts talking about her ex non-stop or orders six shots before dinner or complains about everything from her job to your lack of tattoos, there’s no need for you to waste your time placating her at that moment or trying to figure out what happened later (because nothing did). Just smile politely, tell her you’ve enjoyed meeting her but want to end the date now because this just isn’t working out for either of you—and then walk away without looking back until she leaves your sightline.

Give her space, but don’t fall off the face of the earth.

Give her space, but don’t fall off the face of the earth.

Give her time to process things.

That said, text her, send her a quick message, or make a quick call. Don’t flood her with texts or calls over the next few days and don’t try to arrange a face-to-face meeting.

Make her feel wanted without making it feel like a conquest.

You’re doing yourself a service by buying the flowers. Even if she’s not in the mood for them, you’ve made her feel like she’s taken care of, and that’s important. If a guy who admires flowers is on your list of possible future partners, chances are she’ll be very nice to you too.

You can tell how much effort someone puts into a gift by how much they spent on it. There’s nothing worse than buying something cheap and expecting it to hold up over time. People want to see that you put some thought into your gift—whether it’s a bouquet or something else (a bottle of wine is another good choice). Cash gifts are great too, as long as they’re not cheaply made or gaudy and obvious (think cheap shiny crap).

You don’t need to buy her an expensive piece of jewelry in order to make an impression—unless she has expensive taste in jewelry then go ahead! Remember that even if you’re not crazy about the style, if she likes it then it might be worth wearing on occasion just for funsies since she obviously likes whatever piece you bought her!

The main thing is to get her thinking about what you’ve done for her, rather than what kind of things she wants from you because after all those things will change anyway! The best messages are always about what YOU did for HER!

Don’t try too hard to make things happen on your own terms or timeline.

“Don’t do that.” “did you even ask me before doing it?”

“I want to do it right now, leave your work and come over”

And many more things that my ex said… the scars still haunt me at times. He wanted everything on his terms and barely asked me for consent. 

It seemed like they were growing deeper with each passing day, until one day they hit something so deep inside of me that there was no turning back—no turning back from the idea that everything was out of my control. I finally broke up despite him trying to stop me, and I did. That night, I turned off all of the lights and stared into a void for hours until finally, sleep came on its own accord: a sign that the truth had been set free in my body and mind once again by this realization. 

Girls are not a toy; they want things their way too and they never… NEVER… force things to happen their way. If you will be dominant, trying hard to impose things,  there will be a time when she will leave you like I left my ex. (He is yet single, lonely sitting at the bar daily near my place.)

Never be afraid to discuss something if it’s bothering you.

You can’t be afraid of discussing something that’s bothering you. If it bothers you, even if it seems inconsequential, address it before it becomes a big deal. The more open and honest we are with the people we date, the easier our relationships will be.

Learn from each date and each relationship, even if they don’t end well. The more experience you have, the better equipped you’ll be next time around.

No matter how many failed relationships you’ve had, don’t blame yourself for everything that went wrong. Try to learn from each dating experience, even if it doesn’t work out. The more experience you have, the better equipped you’ll be next time around. Don’t be afraid to try again. As long as you are able to learn from your mistakes and put what you’ve learned into practice, there is no reason why your next relationship can’t be a success.

Relationships will never get any easier if you don’t work on being a better partner yourself first.

Don’t try to change your partner. Relationships will never get any easier if you don’t work on being a better partner yourself first. Nobody is perfect and there will always be room for improvement, but when you’re in a committed relationship, your job isn’t to fix the other person. That’s their job. Your job is to be self-aware so that you can recognize what needs changing in your own behavior and attitudes that affect your relationships with others.

Don’t be a maniac with an anger issue who ignores her emotions

Don’t get angry or frustrated with your partner. It happens to everyone at some point: You find yourself getting increasingly irritated by things that take place in your romantic relationship, and you’re not sure what to do about it. A lot of men do the “macho” thing where they ignore the problem and hope it goes away on its own—but this is the worst thing you can do! Ignoring something like this means you let things build up inside until they explode, which isn’t good for either one of you.”

The bottom line

One of the keys to having a great relationship with a woman is to always show her that you value her feelings and the effort she puts into it. No matter how long you’ve been with her, never stop trying to score her over and reminding her what butterflies feel like. Don’t be one of those guys who doesn’t recognize how special the woman next to them is until it’s too late.

Lastly, respect her like your mother. The only thing a girl wants from her man is true love and trust me she can win over the world to put under your feet after that. Love her to be loved by her.

About the Author

Sasha Aun
Sasha Aun
Hi, I am Sasha, a professional relationship expert, and a blogger. At Datinghelpguide, I write tips to create an attractive dating profile and guides on managing dating profiles on multiple apps.