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100+ Relationship Questions to Improve Your Love Life

When you are in a relationship, it is clear that you already know a lot about that person. You become indifferent to knowing them more thinking you know everything and there’s nothing left to be known.

However, prioritising getting to know your partner during your relationship is necessary: People keep changing throughout their life, therefore there’s always something new to learn about the person. This is where the issues with relationships arise because we end up thinking they aren’t the same.

In this blog, you will find the list of more than 100 questions to ask your partner and know about them more which will surely bring you two more close to each other- mentally, spiritually and perhaps physically.

Questions to know your partner more 

  1. When was the last time you were moved to tears?
  2. When was the last time you actually laughed?
  3. When was the last time you faced a major decision?
  4. Do you believe your horoscope accurately reflects your personality?
  5. Is it true that people have free will, or is it merely a mental construct?
  6. What values were instilled in you by your parents?
  7. What is your most wild sexual fantasia?
  8. What do you look for in a partner?
  9. In the next five years, where do you want to be?
  10. What was your initial reaction to me?
  11. Who or what inspires you?
  12. What is the optimal work-life balance for you?
  13. Is it possible for you to change your entire self only for me?
  14. To you, what does an ideal date night entail?
  15. What part of our first kiss do you remember the most?
  16. What exactly is it about me that irritates you?
  17. How would you like us to spend today if you knew it was our last?
  18. Which of my outfits do you think is the best fit for me?
  19. What are the things you can teach me?
  20. What are some of the memories you’d like us to make together?
  21. How long have you been in a relationship?
  22. What are two or three big truths that you’ve made decisions based on?
  23. Is there a period in your life when you felt influenced by the church?
  24. Is it more important to you to do things right or to get things done right?
  25. What is it that the vast majority of people discover when it’s too late?
  26. Which of the four seasons is your personal favourite?
  27. What is one habit of another human that you find unappealing?
  28. Are you willing to put your relationship on the line to save it?
  29. What would you like to be remembered for?
  30. What have you been most grateful for in the last five years?
  31. Which ice cream flavour do you prefer: chocolate or vanilla?
  32. If you could wake up tomorrow with one characteristic or skill, what would it be?
  33. What was your most memorable “culture shock” experience while visiting another country?
  34. What are some questions you believe should not be asked at a dinner party?
  35. Which aspect of your personality would you wish to improve if given the chance?
  36. When was the last time you felt like abandoning all hope?
  37. What characteristics do we have in common as a family?
  38. Who is the family’s messiest member?
  39. Is there anything we don’t want you to know about our family?
  40. What does it mean to be a member of a family to you?
  41. Is it normal to be jealous of your partner in a relationship?
  42. Would you prefer freedom over security?

Ask these if you wish to be together until death

  1. What does your dream wedding is like?
  2. Do you wish to have children? 
  3. What would you address your children at home? Their nicknames.
  4. When do you want to start a family and how many do you want?
  5. What impact do you believe marriage will have on our relationship?
  6. Do you think marriage and having children go together?
  7. Why is it so important to you that we marry on this particular date?
  8. How much say will we give our parents in the wedding planning?
  9. What was the most memorable wedding you’ve ever attended, and why?
  10. What is the total cost of your dream wedding?
  11. What is your favourite wedding scene from a film or television show?
  12. How long do you think you’d like to spend planning our wedding?
  13. Do you wish to stay in the town where we’re dating or are you planning to relocate?
  14. What are the duties that we should divide?
  15. What level of cleanliness do you prefer?
  16. What are the tasks that each of us should undertake to keep the house in good repair?
  17. Would you consider adopting a child?
  18. What do you think you’d do if you were pregnant and had to go through labour?
  19. What do you believe your approach to adoption would be?
  20. How many children do you think we’ll have?
  21. How do we want to split the money?
  22. What much of money should we put into a joint fund?
  23. Do you have any concerns about sharing a space with others?
  24. What will be our priorities when it comes to spending time with our friends?
  25. What ideals would you like to see instilled in our children?
  26. Which of your best qualities do our kids possess?
  27. Which of your negative traits do our children possess?
  28. Is becoming a parent everything you imagined it would be?
  29. What do you hope to learn from our children or what do they teach you?
  30. What are your must-have subscriptions and services?
  31. Do you have any particular chores that you despise or enjoy?
  32. What aspects of my personality do you find most appealing?
  33. What aspects of your personality do you enjoy the most?
  34. Do you enjoy hanging around with my friends?
  35. What is your favourite activity to do with me?
  36. What’s one date you’d like to go on that we haven’t yet?
  37. What’s a new thing you’d like to attempt in bed with each other?
  38. What percentage of our income do we want to set away for things like date evenings and travel?
  39. When it comes to buying new furniture and decor for the house, what should our budget be?

Ask these questions to know their heart

  1. Which one of your memories would you prefer to be able to erase?
  2. What made you fall in love with me in the first place?
  3. Is it possible for you to spend your entire life with just one person?
  4. In a relationship, what is one thing you will never compromise or give up?
  5. What are the distinctions between you and me, in your opinion?
  6. Do you think our differences are beneficial or harmful?
  7. What do you see as our commonalities?
  8. Do you think our resemblances are a good or negative thing?
  9. How long has it been since you sobbed in a public restroom?
  10. What have you been putting off for an unusually long time?
  11. Who is the one person who never fails to make you smile?
  12. Which book have you reread several times?
  13. What animal would you be if you could be any animal?
  14. What is one show, movie, or book that you are ashamed to confess you like?
  15. What do you imagine your parents would say about you when you were a kid?
  16. Which age or period of your life would you return to if you could go back in time?
  17. What is something you believe in but others do not?
  18. What would you say is one trait that distinguishes you from other people?
  19. Do you consider yourself a forgiving person?
  20. Have you ever dated someone who is a decade or more your senior?
  21. Have you gone on a blind date before?
  22. What kind of activities do you want to do on our next date?
  23. Do you believe in love at first sight anymore?
  24. Do you think the length of time you’ve known someone has anything to do with whether or not you’re in love with them?
  25. Do you have a tendency to forget people’s names?
  26. What was your relationship like with your parents when you were younger?
  27. What is the appropriate number of daily phone calls for a couple?
  28. What’s the one thing you’ve never asked me?
  29. What would you do if you and I had the chance to switch jobs tomorrow?
  30. What is the most appropriate piece of advice you could give me right now?
  31. As a kid, did you enjoy making new friends?
  32. What would you say is the best way to characterise your day?
  33. What would you do for or with me that you couldn’t do in previous relationships?
  34. What percentage of your income would you rather invest than save?
  35. What do you think is missing from our relationship?
  36. What are the few things for which you are most thankful?
  37. Can you think of one thing you can’t give up, even if it’s for me?

As you begin to open up with each other, these questions for lovers will allow you both to be open. You’ll undoubtedly have a greater sense of closeness and a closer bond with your beloved one after the conversation.

Love, shine, glow!

About the Author

Sasha Aun
Sasha Aun
Hi, I am Sasha, a professional relationship expert, and a blogger. At Datinghelpguide, I write tips to create an attractive dating profile and guides on managing dating profiles on multiple apps.